A Little Something About Relationships & Love

I do not claim to be an expert in relationships; I most certainly am not. As a young man in my twenties, I am only beginning to explore and learn about the numerous intricacies of a healthy, loving relationship.

Nonetheless, the topic interests me a great deal, not least because I am in a relationship myself. One of the questions that truly stirs me up is: how do you know when someone is right for you?

I choose my words very careful. I chose to use the word 'right' instead of 'perfect', since neither any person nor any relationship can ever be perfect.

Back to the point. Someone might be right for you because she has similar interests, passions and ambitions. Others might be right for you if they are willing to sacrifice part, if not most, of their interests, to support and assist you in the difficult task of life.

However, I would encourage every one in a relationship to open their eyes and consider the prospect of loving a person for who they are.

That is, loving a person in her entirety, both her positive and negative aspects

We will never find our 'other half', if we look exclusively for positive features. So the best we can do is to accept these delicacies in others, about which we worry, and ask whether they are more important than the overall magic of the relationship.

Often times the negative aspects are overruled by actions that are far, far more important.

Examples include the act of actively supporting and loving, the act of making your partner feel like a billion dollars when he feels like a discarded penny, and the act of surrendering yourself to the mutual interest of a relationship.

Moreover, the imperfections in a parter can be seen as the "good stuff"

(To quote Robin Williams)

I consider myself to be intelligent, well spoken, and nice and personable. But my sneezes are loud and horrendous, I tend to fart on occasion, and I stretch my long arms in public without much regard for obstacles, often other people, in the nearby surroundings.

Funnily enough, the imperfections about me are what I love the most. And the imperfections I see in my girlfriend are also what I love the most about her!

So perhaps we should appreciate imperfections in ourselves and in others, stop focusing on the perfections that are mostly irritating, and feel free to get caught up in our romanticism and pursue a relationship just because it is interesting and human to do so. 

Get loving, bitches.